With that milestone achieved, I was thinking of the last few months and what blogging in general has brought me. Loads of internetfriends, really good friends. Huger engagement in twitter and instagram. Meeting two bloggers before the end of this year hopefully. I’m even thinking of going to a meet up! I never would have thought that to be honest.
To be honest it’s not all sunshine. I have encountered racism, accused of being a misogynist, being insulted because of my mental health and the thing I wanted to talk about with you today: ‘Blogging is for women’
As I started my blog I only told my sister and it long stayed this way to be honest. I was not embarrassed, not at all. But I knew and now know that my environment is not too keen on male blogging.
My blog is the reflection of my life to be honest. Everything that I think that is important, can be found on this blog. Football, travel, politics, opinion, food and mental health. It’s all there mates.
I took me several weeks to have the courage – yes you read that right- to post my link on social media and promote my blog and posts. At that time most of my twitter followers where people I personally knew in real life and I was scared for their judgement. And I was right.
People started to discus it with others and when I saw my ‘friends’ they said that I was a disappointment. Becoming one of those people they would hate. Those typical youtube-blogging people splashing all over social media, killing the world we live in. It felt like someone stepped on my bare soul.
The blogging community is so supportive. I’ve made great friends, some I will have for the rest of my life. It’s so positive and really feeds into your creative, innovative productivity. It allows you to grow and share with the people who love the same thing. It’s fantastic and I’m forever grateful to all the people who believe in me and my blog.
As positive the reactions are from the blogging community, so negative are the reactions in real life. Let me give you a few examples:
– Are you gay? Because that’s not something real men do
– You are weak mate. Go find a real hobby
– Pff, get a real life.
– People are lying, it’s shit. Give it up
– You can’t write.
– Writing is for books and exams, not for blogs
– No one will read it
– You disgust me
– Talking so much with women? No friend of mine.
These are the milder ones. But it leaves me with a very mixed feeling at the moment. I feel so loved and cared about by the blogging community. People who I haven’t even met. And they are bloody lovely. But on the other hand, people I have known my whole life, are so fucking negative and bitter. I don’t know how to handle this all.
Then you got the third group and I don’t know what to think of them to be honest. People who know of my blog, say it’s good for me to have it. BUT don’t ask about it, not be supportive or anything else. They just let me be and don’t bother with it. I HATE THAT. It creates so much opportunity for me. FAM, I might go to a meet up. I’m going to meet another blogger in Bromley and another one in Newcastle. Life’s smiling upon me despite the anxiety and depression. AND STILL THOSE PEOPLE DON’T CARE. Swear to God, frustrating. INNIT.
Okay I’ve calmed down a bit. Made myself a cuppa. Read some shakespeare. It’s just very frustrating that there’s a stigma. Well at least here in the Netherlands. Male bloggers are persona non grata. I hate that.
I’m a blogger and I’m bloody proud of it.