Well I suppose the title reveals something, right? But yeah, I have a girlfriend! SURPRISE!! Okay, I know what you are thinking, I can hear you think it right now. Don’t bother hiding it. ‘What in the world do you do, that someone is willing to have a relationship with you?’ Fair enough, I’m quite a weird lad, but that is not the point. I have a girlfriend and she makes me feel complete. So lads and lassies, I’m going to introduce you to my lovely girlfriend, Anne.
As you all know I suffer from various mental illnesses and I always thought this would consequently lead to more negative things or events. But it’s not all doom and gloom, I think it’s very important to say that. Of course experiencing mental health problems is not a positive thing in my opinion, but it has also brought me new people in my life, whom I’m forever grateful for.
So when I was at the worst I’ve felt, I met the most inspiring, incredible, beautiful and lovely person on this planet. Little did I then know, that this lovely individual would become my girlfriend. I couldn’t have predicted that a tweet would lead to talking every day. That it would lead to texting and meeting. That it would lead to that day that I fell in love. But I’m so happy it did and yes, ‘happy’. It’s weird to use that word in relation to the emotion. I can’t really remember what feeling happy felt like, but this is the closest I’ve felt in a very long time.
The first thing you should know about her, is that she is a fellow blogger and ‘Dutchie’ (Okay, I really hate that word). I found her blog and it blew my mind. It’s really unique and it doesn’t bore you at all. There is so many to find on the blog and every time I read a blogpost I think: She’s saying this to me, yes say it. I feel so good reading those posts, you should definitely follow her – All the links are below fam – and make her day.
I’m not going to talk more about what she does etcetera, because that is something you should find out my exploring her blog. But I will talk to you about how she has made my life better and will make my life better everyday. The wonderful personality and cute smile, everything that has made me fall in love with her.
She literally has the kindest soul I have ever experienced. I always thought kindness was something everyone had or could put on, but this isn’t the case. She is so kind, the purest form of it and really wants me to feel good, genuinely good. She wil literally do anything to cheer me up and make me laugh. I’m a lucky man (The Verve reference intended)
Two things I think are really important in a relationship: Make each other laugh and have proper & transparant conversations. I am fortunate to have both in my relationship. Anne not only makes me smile, but is very funny and can make my dark days turn in days of sunshine. That is so so so incredibly difficult and she can do it. Again, it does make me feel like a very lucky person indeed.
Just as important is the ability to have a good conversation. Obviously food is very important to talk about, but my girlfriend is a very intelligent person. I can talk about literally anything and she will not only express her own opinion, but she will listen to what I have to say. Again and again and again, I’m so fortunate to have her.
One thing I’m grateful for in particular, is the way she deals with my mental health problems. She is so openminded, supportive and educated. She listens to what I say and tries to do everything in her power to make me feel safe, comfortable and better. After hearing so many negative reactions, this is just what I need and will need.
She made me realise the world is worth it, I’m worth it. I’m relevant. I’m awesome. I’m a warrior and I can fight these demons within me. I know I’m just at the beginning of my therapy and recovery, but I would like to thank Anne for being there for me. Stimulating me. Supporting me. Helping me. Caring.
She’s the best.
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P.S. SHE WANTS TO TALK FOOTBALL AND VISIT A MATCH WITH ME. KEEPER, INNIT?!
‘Ave a good one, fam!